Long before a garden blooms, something important happens. The ground is cleared, the soil is nourished, and space is made for what’s to come. The month of March lives in the moment of quiet preparation that makes growth possible. Before a single seed is planted, a gardener tends to the soil, clears out what no longer belongs, and enriches the ground so new life has the best chance to take root. Growth in the garden doesn’t come from force or urgency, it comes from care, patience, and trust; our lives work much the same way.
“A garden is a place of hope and inspiration.” – gardener, Bob Flowerdew
When we think about personal growth, whether it’s wanting more energy, ease, connection, or purpose, we often feel an immediate pull toward doing more. We might take on new habits, make new plans, and look for bold change. And yet, most of us have already lived through decades of seasons that have shaped us without dramatic adjustments. We’ve weathered storms, celebrated harvests, and learned, often quietly, from what thrives, what fades, and what surprises us.
Real, sustainable transformation begins with the inner environment we’re creating from. Our thoughts, our routines, and the way we speak to ourselves form the soil of our lives. If that soil is depleted, stressed, or overly critical, even the best intentions struggle to thrive. March doesn’t ask us to become better versions of ourselves. It simply invites us to pause and ask: what shape is my inner environment in? Is it nourishing or is it exhausting? Is it supportive or is it demanding? Preparation isn’t about fixing anything. It’s about gently creating conditions that allow what’s already within us to grow in its own time.
“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” – Lao Tzu
Every garden begins with choice. What do we want to grow this season? In our lives, the seeds might be simple things like a desire for less chaos and more calm. It could be choosing the habit of walking or moving more. It might be reaching out to someone we’ve wanted to connect with, or creating time and space for more rest, more creativity, or more reflection.
And when we live in a community, our choices flow outward. Some of the seeds we plant are for ourselves, and some are to share with others. It’s small, meaningful gestures that strengthen connection, deepen belonging, and create a sense of shared ease. Not every seed needs to be grand. In fact, the most meaningful changes often begin quietly. Planting with intention means choosing what truly matters to us, not what we think should matter. It’s more about alignment than achievement.
Once seeds are planted, the gardener doesn’t stand over them, demanding results. The gardener waters the seeds, protects the seeds and notices what needs more light and what needs less. In our lives, tending is being consistent and kind with ourselves. We turn to the supportive habits we create even when we don’t feel motivated. We offer ourselves grace when we fall short of our goals and we make small choices that nourish rather than drain us. You see, growth doesn’t announce itself right away. Often, just like seeds in the garden, it happens beneath the surface long before we see evidence of it.
“What is a weed? I have heard it said that there are sixty definitions. For me, a weed is a plant out of place. – Unknown
Every garden has weeds but that doesn’t mean the gardener has failed. Unhelpful thought patterns, habits that no longer serve us, or ways of living that once helped but now hold us back, are simply part of being human. Spring offers an opportunity to notice without judgment what might be crowding out what we want to grow. We can ask ourselves what am I ready to release? Letting go is about removing thoughts and stories that are no longer true for us, to make room for what is aligned with who we are today. While surrendering obsolete thinking habits to create space for fresh ideas is important, perhaps the greatest lesson a garden teaches us is patience.
“In the garden, we find the seeds of possibility.” – Unknown
There’s wisdom in trusting timing, in knowing that tending matters just as much as blooming. In understanding that growth unfolds in its own way, at its own pace. As March unfolds, consider this your invitation to dream a little, to make space and time to prepare rather than rush.
If it feels right, take a moment to ask yourself this question: what is one small thing I would like to tend to this spring?
Care for your inner garden with the same attention you’d offer something you truly love. It’s not about having it all figured out, it’s about taking care of what’s important to you. Experience has shown you that you don’t have to force the bloom. You’ve already lived enough seasons to trust that it will come, just as it always has.